Archive for November, 2006

Almost 6 Months Old

Six months have gone by so quickly. I’m ready for the next one… kinda. I’ve been polling parents about how they feel about the age differences of their children. It seems to be the consensus that having them close together is very hard at the beginning, but potentially wonderful as they get older; and having them about 3 years apart is generally the best all around in that there’s no period where the gap is extremely difficult–notice I said “extremely”? I’m sure it’s difficult at some point having more than one child… but it’s difficult having one, so the general difficulty of it all doesn’t really get to count in this equation. I figure I’d rather have the difficulty all smooshed together in one big lump so that when it’s over, it’s over and we can get on with it. But Dan would rather take it a little more slowly–take some time to rest between children. He’s probably right.

I’m just impatient. I was impatient to get married, impatient to buy a house, impatient to have our first child. I think I need to just relax and enjoy the moments as they happen. It’s hard to do. And though I know I should be doing that, I don’t really know how.

Daniel came down with his first cold on Sunday. He had a fever and a runny nose and a bit of coughing. It wasn’t too bad. There were a couple of times when he seemed to be pretty miserable, but a bit of Tylenol helped. He’s been taking a homeopathic remedy for his runny nose which helps a bit. Now we’re just waiting for it to stop running completely before we go where other children will be to keep him from infecting them and/or to keep their parents from worrying he will.

The exciting developments are slowing down now. Daniel is still working on sitting unassisted. He’s pretty good at it now as long as his diaper is on. Without it, he’s a little more floppy–less support, I guess. He can kind of roll from his back to his front, but his arm still gets stuck underneath him and he usually just ends up rolling back over to his back again. His “words” are fun to listen to. He’s been throwing a few new sounds into the mix lately, but his favorites are still “dah dah dah” or “lah lah lah” or some mix of the two–“ldah dlah” or something like that. He kicks like crazy now. It used to be mostly in the bathtub, but now he kicks anywhere. It’s funny watching him try to kick his legs while sitting on the potty.

I bought an Ergo Carrier recently after hearing some of the other moms rave about it. I’d been using my slings a ton until I got it. I still prefer the slings for going to the store or for short outings because Daniel can see so much better in them and they’re much more portable and adjustable. But the Ergo Carrier is a dream in so many ways. It’s a little bulky on my tiny body–but for a normal sized person (or a large person, for that matter) I can imagine it’d be perfect. I can wear Daniel on my back or my front and he feels completely secure and comfortable. His weight is evenly distributed on my shoulders and hips. And he seems to love being in it–he falls asleep half the time. It’s like a Baby Bjorn, but a zillion times better. For one, they don’t hang by their crotch with the Ergo (the Bjorns are bad for their hips). Two, the Ergo has a waist belt that helps to distribute the weight better (and because Daniel is so heavy and I’m so small, that’s a huge bonus). Three, the Ergo can be used with newborns all the way up to toddlers. It’s well worth the investment–it’s kinda costly.

Daniel is almost too big for his carseat already, so instead of going from the infant seat to the toddler seat, we have to get a convertable seat. The biggest bummer about that is that convertable seats are so much bigger than infant seats (so they can support a child up to 40 lbs) and my car is small. The infant seat that Daniel is in now barely fits in my car–rear-facing, that is. Once he can face forward (at one year), it’ll be no problem. I’m just praying that the seat we get (the Britax Roundabout seems to be the smallest one I can find) will fit somehow. Any suggestions?

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5 1/2 Months Old

Last night, my dream came true. Daniel slept through the night! I vaguely remember him waking up once, but he put himself back to sleep fairly quickly. I don’t expect him to do it again tonight, but I sure do hope he does.

The sitting has been going well. Daniel still topples, but much less often.

I put him in one of those baby park swings yesterday. Daniel absolutely loved it. He was squealing and laughing the whole time.

Showering is going to become challenging pretty soon. Until recently, I’ve been putting Daniel in his bouncy chair when I shower in the morning. But he’s not so happy with that arrangement any more. A few days ago, I put him in the doorway jumper instead. That’s been working okay, but I can tell it won’t last long. I’m getting worried about what to do with Daniel while I shower when he starts crawling, and then, when he’s walking. Showering at night could be my only option… but it’s just not the same. I feel so much more awake, more ready for the day when I’ve showered in the morning.

This coming Tuesday, we have two appointments to visit play gyms. Our first stop will be Gymboree, then we’ll go to My Gym. I’m looking forward to having a regular opportunity to meet other moms with babies. So far, I’ve not been so good at it. I go to the open house day at the midwives’ office every Thursday, but I’m the only regular. Almost every week, there are different moms and children, so I don’t really get the chance to get to know any one. I also signed up for a Yahoo group of EC families (that’s Elimination Communication–babies on potties). They have a play group on Wednesdays that I’ll try out soon.

I have been back to my old size for a few weeks now. I didn’t think I’d actually be able to fit into my old pants again–with the spreading of the hips and all–but I guess everything went back to the way it was. Dan’s pretty happy with the way it’s all worked out.

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5 Months Old

Sleep. Where has it gone? You don’t hear much about how tiring motherhood is… at least I didn’t until I became a fellow zombie. Daniel went right back into his 2-3 hour wake-up intervals after only a couple of nights of semi-decent sleep.

I’ve been so unproductive over the last weeks. I feel bad when I don’t get much done around the house in more ways than one. Mostly, I feel like (and this is stupid, I know) I’m not “earning my keep”. I feel like it’s not fair that Dan has to go to work every day while I sit on my arse playing with Daniel and watching Ellen. Of course I’m not just sitting around all day, but I do feel guilty for the amount of time I spend watching TV or emailing when I could be putting another load of our endless laundry in the wash or tidying the living room table. But not having much sleep affects the whole body. I feel so lazy that getting up to pour a glass of water feels like a chore. Instead, I sit on the sofa dangling toy keys over Daniel’s head while coaxing him to “get the keys, you can do it!” while my mouth and throat feel like I swallowed a handful of sand. So getting up to wash dishes or to organize the closet seems like monumental tasks.

And I really could do something about it. I could go to bed when Daniel does… That would help some. The problem with that is then I don’t get any time to myself or with Dan. Then I’m a mother and nothing else. I don’t want to be nothing else. So I sacrifice sleep for humanity–though at this moment, I’m not so sure it’s the best trade anymore (even though I’m staying up to write this!)

I really shouldn’t complain. I do work a little bit–from home and on my own time–but I don’t really have to. I really don’t understand how some women get up at dawn to be at a full-time job after getting so little sleep, and then go home to cook dinner, clean the house and try to spend “quality” time with their children. Even if the household chores were split 50/50, I don’t think I’d be able to do it. I couldn’t even maintain a tidy household before having Daniel! Yet women do it all the time–many of them single and with more than one child. I’m ashamed of myself sometimes when I think of these women.

But Daniel is thriving despite my grog. He’s almost sitting on his own. When he’s distracted with his toys, he forgets to balance and falls over–usually falling forward, as he’s jamming his toys in his mouth. His second most favorite way to topple is to tip sideways. It’s a funny site to see. First he starts to list, then, plop. But when I can get him to look at me, he’ll sit for quite some time without using his hands as props. And when he’s sitting between my legs, he only occasionally leans back against me, preferring, instead, to sit up straight, taking advantage of his side-topple protection.

Today, at our friend’s 2nd birthday party, Daniel discovered the delight of helium balloons. He was cracking up as he was flown airplane-style into them. He laughed more with the balloons than he’s ever laughed before in his life. I’ve come to terms with the fact that he doesn’t laugh in a long continuous roll–that his “laughing” is a series of squeals and coughs of laughter. But the balloons caused him to really let go and LAUGH. The one balloon we brought home makes him happy, but it’s nothing compared to the brilliance of three at once.

The potty using is still going well. Daniel’s potty poos way outnumber his diaper poos. While he pees more in the toilet than in his diaper, he still wets a good number of them. Mostly it’s my fault. I’m often either not paying close enough attention or too busy with something else to take him, or, I’m too tired to get up to deal with it–see above.

And now that Daniel has been asleep for a couple of hours already, it’s pretty stupid of me to still be blogging. Good night.

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